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BIG PICTURE As co-owner and chef of Bristolino, Francesco Todisco is no stranger to the kitchen. Read more on page 54. PHOTO BY REBECCA TIEN

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FINDING AND KEEPING LOVE IN COLUMBUS 64

GALLERY SPACE: PHOENIX RISING 31

MIC DROP: ELIJAH BANKS 36 BELLY UP TO LAWBIRD 42 ROOH IS RISING 48

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Illustration by Sarah Moore.

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s there another holiday that inspires quite so much handwringing as Valentine’s Day? I’ve found that people tend to approach it from one extreme or the other: it’s either the holiday that will fundamentally define your relationship that everything hinges on; or it’s just another day on the calendar designed to increase sales of candy and roses that can be comfortably opted-out of. Middle ground is hard to find. I’ve personally settled pretty comfortably into category number two. With Christmas still in the recent rearview, and both my husband and I celebrating January birthdays, our “special day” ideas and gift wells have run pretty dry by the time we round the corner into February. (Although funny cards and chocolates are always welcome additions to my life). That doesn’t mean I’ve always been quite so zen about the day of love, though. I remember carefully parsing the contents of store-bought valentines placed in handmade bags in elementary school, questioning the level of thought behind a given message. Does that Ninja Turtle mean he wants to come out of his shell for me? If a card featuring Optimus Prime says, “I’ll transform for you, Valentine,” should I expect that the giver will stop poking me in line as we file down the hall? Perhaps I was an overthinker. This is the first time (614) has tackled love and dating in Columbus since our very first issue. Needless to say, the landscape has changed quite a bit since then. Not only are there a lot more options for places to take your date these days, but there are also apps to find the right date, and ever-evolving perceptions of what relationships can look like. Further, as relationship needs can change over time—the tricks that work well in the first year may need a refresher some years down the road—we’ve spoken to relationship experts who provide advice for everyone from single and searching to long-married. We’re covering all this and more in our cover section this month. We’re also excited to feature 18

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stories from readers this month. We asked people how they fell in love in Columbus, and they delivered stories that made us smile. Plus, we showcase some real weddings that recently took place in the city, including all kinds of advice for the newly engaged (or soon-to-be engaged; looking at you, category one Valentine’s Day couples). Whether you’re in a relationship, looking for one, or happily single, these stories are moving reminders of the different ways we connect and share time together. Is everything “happily ever after”? No—and that’s OK. There are ups and downs, perfect spontaneous moments, and events that go unexpectedly awry even after months of planning. That’s love, and that’s life. Our writers this month offer date ideas that break the classic “dinner and a movie” rut. But should you want to go with a tried-and-true

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standard, we have restaurant recommendations that are sure to impress. You can also showcase your interest in local culture by visiting a printmaking show at the Ohio State Faculty Club, or settling in for a night of music by Elijah Banks, our featured musician. We’re here to give you options, though if you decide to default to “Netflix and chill,” we certainly won’t judge. No matter what, readers, we’re glad you’re here. However you choose to express love this February, we choo-choo-choose you all. Cheers,

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You Go Joe While Joe Burrow is an LSU hero, he’s also a tried-and-true Ohioan and an alum of Ohio State. And if things shake out as they seem, the elite quarterback should be playing on Sundays in Cincinnati next season. He’s a Heisman winner, a National Champion, and most recently, the namesake of a signature steak dish at Jeff Ruby’s Steakhouse. While the steak, which features a 16 ounce Blackened Prime Rib with Creole Crawfish Sauce, is only available at the Cincinnati location, Mr. Burrow himself enjoyed its first ever unveiling right here in Columbus. Congrats, Joe!

Worth A Share Every now and then you’ll see a heartwarming video come across your Facebook timeline that is just too irresistible not to share. It’s not often Columbus is the attention of one of these viral hits, but when you combine Lizzo with Girl Scout Cookies, how can you go wrong? Shout out to Columbus’ very own Amory Vargo, AKA Little Lizzo, and her mother Samantha for putting together an awesome video. If you haven’t watched it yet, head over to YouTube and search “Amory 2020 Cookie Video—Truth Hurts.” You’re welcome.

ICYMI Are you following 614now? It’s our online publication dedicated to being the user’s guide to Columbus. Here are the top stories from January, and you can find these and more at 614now.com.

(1): Adorable Alert: Zoo shares videos of new polar bear cub

The Columbus Zoo’s newest baby isn’t at all camera shy, and we’re loving it! Heartwarming footage from inside the private denning area of polar bear mom, Aurora, and her cub offer a glimpse into what is sure to be an exciting and adorable adventure ahead. Born on Thanksgiving, the energetic cub has been seen taking its first steps, nursing, climbing, cuddling, and receiving a bath from mama. Watch the videos below, and try not to shriek, “Aww!” too loudly.

(2): 20 new bars and restaurants to try in 2020

Did you set a goal to try more new things in 2020? What about embracing the city you call home more? Or maybe you aspire to expand your palate. If any or all apply to you, this list of 20 new bars and restaurants to try in the new year will certainly help guide your journey. Happy drinking and dining, Columbus!

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614Now’s Quality Control Street Team Every month, we post tons of content on 614now.com. And with the high volume of posts we do, our audience of dedicated readers are never ones to shy away from voicing up in our comment section. We see you, comment section warriors, and we applaud your efforts. Here’s our favorite from last month.

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Wesley Chaplin: Terrible play on words, 614. Do you really not know how to pronounce the word or do you not care enough to try to when “reporting” on the dish?

Granted, this wasn’t our best pun to-date, but it’s not our worst, right? Since we were off our game, we’ll put the ball in your court, readers. Can you come up with a better headline for the story? Send us your best options on Instagram at @614Magazine.

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DRAWN TO PRESIDENTS: PORTRAITS AND SATIRIC DRAWINGS BY DREW FRIEDMAN // The Billy Ireland Cartoon Library & Museum Don’t look now, but it’s 2020 and that means the political cycle is about to hit Ohio hard. Instead of drowning in cable television ads, stop by The Billy Ireland Cartoon Library & Museum for some laughs with Drew Friedman’s comical portrayals of past presidents. The illustrator has been featured in the likes of Mad magazine, The New Yorker, and Time, and his creations will be on display for the first week of February.

DANCING WITH THE STARS // The Palace Theater The show Dancing With The Stars has been on a long run winning television awards, and in February you’ll have the chance to catch the acts live and in action! The night of music and dancing will include famous faces, never-before-seen dance routines, and plenty of laughs.

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COLUMBUS BLUE JACKETS VS. DETROIT RED WINGS // Nationwide Arena We don’t give a damn for the whole state of Michigan and that applies to the Red Wings. Pile into Nationwide, crack open a few Labatt Blues, and let’s watch the Jackets take home a victory!

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2020 COLUMBUS FISHING EXPO // Ohio State Fair Grounds The cold weather won’t stop a real fisherman! The 2020 Columbus Fishing Expo is here to satisfy all your fishing needs, from tackle boxes to bait to new poles. Browse through the vendors, listen to one of the guest speakers such as Scott Martin, a professional fisherman, and the cover of the fishing video game Fishing Sim World: Pro Tour, and stop in one of the many free seminars occurring throughout the weekend.

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WINTER WERK OUT FESTIVAL // The Bluestone The Winter Werk Out Festival is back for another year of celebrating and highlighting local talent from the Midwest. The three-dayevent will feature music from The Werks, Big Gigantic, and many more.

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// Skully’s Music-Diner Fresh off the success of his latest album release, The Lost Boy, YBN Cordae is taking his talents on the road. Though he is a newcomer in the rap game, he’s worked with the likes of Anderson .Paak, Chance The Rapper, and Meek Mill. Catch the electrifying hip-hop and rap artist at Skully’s.

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INDIAN VEGAN COOKING // Mitchell Hall When it’s cold outside, we think there’s nothing better than stuffing yourself to the brim with delicious Indian dishes. Mitchell Hall seems to agree with us, and they are hoping to help you out in the kitchen with this purely vegan cooking class.

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CELEBRATE VALENTINE’S DAY // Franklin Park Conservatory Don’t let Valentine’s Day slip by again this year! Instead, mark your calendars for Franklin Park Conservatory’s Valentine’s Day celebration. Stroll through the beautiful flower displays, enjoy time with your significant other, and of course, take a bunch of cute Instagram pics.

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MARTIN LAWRENCE // The Schottenstein Center Whether you know him from his hit television show, Martin, or as Detective Marcus Burnett from Bad Boys, he’s Martin Lawrence and he’s coming to Columbus. The comedian, actor, and activist has had a long career on the big screen and has become an icon in the pop culture world.

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TANGO MOMS, GIRL FOX, SYLMAR // Rumba Cafe It’s an Ohio-based throwdown as Columbus’ own Tango Moms and Girl Fox will be performing along with Cincinnati-based Sylmar. Watch these local indie bands put on a stellar show in the intimate setting of Rumba Cafe halfway through the month.

TIM & ERIC // Express Live Anyone who has watched the Tim & Eric Awesome Show, Great Job knows exactly what they are getting into for this evening. These two are irreverent, vulgar, and downright hilarious. Strap in for a weird show—but weird in the best way possible!

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A-TRAK AT OTHERWORLD // Otherworld The Canadian DJ is making his return to Columbus and this time he’s stopping off at the scenic and enticing Otherworld. The Grammynominated artist has worked with the likes of Kid Cudi, Danny Brown, and has been named as one of the most important DJs in the EDM game by Rolling Stone. Combine his talents with the beautiful scenery of Otherworld and you’re in for a night of sensory overload.

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FOURTH ANNUAL BREAKFAST WITH CHARACTERS // Station 67 Event Center Is there ever a bad time for breakfast with lovable characters? We tend to think not. Head over to Station 67 Event Center where all your child’s favorite animated characters will be happily ready to meet and greet them.

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AN EVENING WITH JACK TEMPCHIN // Natalie’s Music Hall & Kitchen The legendary status of The Eagles will in part go down in history thanks to the work of Jack Tempchin. While he wasn’t playing the guitar for the band or leading the group in vocals, he is a phenomenal song writer who went on to write the lyrics to hits like “Peaceful Easy Feeling” and “Already Gone.” He’ll be making an appearance at Natalie’s, so Eagles fans, don’t miss the chance to get behind the music!

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COLUMBUS WINTER WINE FEST // Brewmasters Gate Just a month and a few days after the Beerfest dust settles, the Columbus Winter Wine Festival will be coming to town. It will be complete with food trucks, live musical entertainment, and of course, plenty of wine. Your purchased ticket grants you access to 10 wine samplings and a special commemorative glass to take home. Best of all: proceeds from the event will go towards the children’s charity CD102.5 for the Kids.

CHEF ROBERT IRVINE DINING EXPERIENCE // Hollywood Casino Columbus Chef Robert Irvine knows a thing or two when it comes to cooking in the kitchen; just ask all the folks he’s helped along the way in his hit television shows like Restaurant Impossible and Worst Cooks in America. At the end of February, you’ll have the chance to taste his expertise as he’ll be bringing his signature dishes to the Hollywood Casino.

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OHIO STATE VS. MICHIGAN // The Schottenstein Center If we’ve said it once, we’ve said it a million times: we don’t give a damn for the whole state of Michigan! And that includes their basketball squad, too! Show up in full force as the Bucks take on the Wolverines to kick off March.

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THE ARNOLD CLASSIC // Greater Columbus Convention Center Back and presumably bigger than ever is The Arnold Sports Classic. By now, we’re sure you know the drill: spend way too much money at the vendors, obtain all the free swag you can fit in your drawstring bag, and gaze in amazement at all the insanely fit folks walking around. 28

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Gallery Space BY JOHN MCLAUG HL I N PHOTOS BY A M Y G L ASS

Christine Abbott: Phoenix Rising Printmaking Cooperative •

• C HRISTINE D’EPIRO ABBOTT WOVEN SILKSCREEN (EDITION OF 7) 18”X22” $450

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the art world, there’s a commonly held misconception that the best work deals exclusively with the biggest and most ineffable topics: love, death, and thought. Printmaker Christine Abbott debunks this idea with her recent work in “Visible Ink”, a group show featuring members of the Phoenix Rising Printmaking Cooperative, now on display at the OSU Faculty Club. Abbott’s quiet, often formal work depicts lush, flattened interior scenes without people. While they depict everyday scenes, they somehow keep us coming back for more, to explore the delicate coloring and formal layers of each piece, or to ruminate on the idea of house and home. Phoenix Rising, which has been active in Columbus for more than 20 years, offers members printmaking materials and equipment to create with. The non-profit organization also holds printmaking workshops for the Columbus community, as well as one-on-one lessons, making it a resource for artists of all skill levels (614) sat down with Abbott to discuss her recent work and what it’s like as an active member of a printmaking co-op.

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CAN YOU START BY TALKING ABOUT YOUR OWN WORK IN THE SHOW? 2017 marked a return to printmaking for me, but the imagery for this series, the interior scenes that are in “Visible Ink” actually started in St. Louis [after Abbott completed an MFA program at Washington University]. The year that I lived in St. Louis, I lived in a carriage house and cleaned [the owner’s] home in exchange for living over their garage in a nice part of town. So I got to know the family pretty well, and obviously cleaned their house frequently. I found that being in the same space daily inspired me to explore those spaces in my own work. And so when I had kids and was at home all the time, your home is a metaphor in a lot of ways; there are so many layers of meaning.

“ M y goal as an artist when I make work is to create an entrypoint where anyone can connect with it. ”

WHAT DO YOU WANT PEOPLE TO TAKE FROM YOUR WORK IN THE SHOW? My goal as an artist when I make work is to create an entrypoint where anyone can connect with it. The cookies are kind of on the shelf, if you will, but the more time you spend with the imagery and the body of work, the more you discover and engage with. For me, I want an immediate entrypoint, I want something to grab me right away, but then I also want there to be more compiled than that. It’s a balancing act, but it’s an intuitive one. • 614NOW.COM FEBRUARY 2020 (614) MAGAZINE

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YOU USE SILK-SCREEN FOR ONE OF YOUR PIECES IN THE SHOW. WHAT ATTRACTED YOU TO WORKING IN THAT FORMAT? First of all, it’s great for color, and the formal qualities of my work are really important to me. Also, there’s a physicality to screen printing that I love. With silkscreening you’re working with a squeegee, and the paint is thick. It’s like yogurt. The whole time you’ve got this goopy ink and you’re trying to get something that’s slick and flat to even out. But what that means is that the bigger the piece you’re working on, the bigger the squeegee you use, and the more physical it becomes. Screen printing has this incredibly rich history as well, but it’s not something people always understand is a part of their everyday life as well. It creates the shirts we wear, the signage we see all the time.

“VISIBLE INK” IS A GROUP SHOW, WHICH IS A PRETTY UNIQUE FORMAT. HOW DOES THAT WORK? There are just over 30 pieces from 17 different artists. Part of the advantage of being a Phoenix Rising member is that you’re working side by side with great artists like Anne Cushman, and you can pitch a group show. Before I became a member they had a show at the Zanesville Museum of Art, and it’s really great for that as a part of what you’re doing professionally.

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HOW ELSE HAS BEING PART OF A CO-OP BENEFITTED YOUR WORK AND PRACTICE? First of all, there’s a natural flow of ideas between co-op members. You can get feedback on your work and technical help too. Plus, you’re exhibiting your work with other people, so you’re naturally developing relationships as you show together and work together. I think it’s very organic. If I were to move to another city, it’s definitely something I would do. I used to rent a studio space and while that was helpful, it’s not as relationship building as being part of a cooperative. I tell this to my students; I encourage them if they ever move to a city, I’d join a co-op for the professional association and the opportunity to exhibit under the group name as well. Another reason why I like printmaking co-op is the fact that you work with shared gear and equipment. Most people don’t own their own printmaking press; they’re heavy and costly. That collaboration is part of image making; it’s part of printmaking. •

Visible Ink, the Phoenix Rising Printmaking Coorperative’s group exhibition, is on display at the OSU Faculty Club, 181 S Oval Drive, through February 21. To learn more, visit phoenixrisingprintmaking.org.

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Spinning With Control Elijah Banks brings his worldview back to Columbus through new album Spin.

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ear the end of “Tunes in My Room,” a song by local rapper Elijah Banks, samples of affirmations from social media personality Amber Wagner kick in. “You are still surrounded by an abundance of love, you have joy around you, God is with you,” Wagner passionately evokes. “You gon’ be alright.” Though Banks proclaims sophomore album Spin as a love story, much like Wagner’s declaration, through nine tracks filled with soulful aptitude, Banks finds that self-love is the ultimate destination. “On my first album [Progress, Not Perfection], I wanted to show people all the different routes that I could take,” Banks said. “Over time, I’ve realized that my true roots lie in what makes people feel good, [which is] self-love; that’s what this album is about. When you start loving yourself, you are forced to recognize and notice what isn’t for you.” Born into a military family, Banks drew different perspectives of music through his upbringing in Germany, New Jersey and Atlanta before ultimately settling in Ohio. Being in the midst of trap-rap culture during his time in Atlanta, he says that if you’re looking for hollow autotuned rap, Spin probably won’t be the ideal soundscape. In fact, not fitting into mainstream standards is helping Banks weed out who his music isn’t for. “At first, I wanted to aim for a more pop-driven record that could get lots of spins on radio and push myself out more in a regional manner,” he said. “Each song showcases a situation right before it spins out of control.” Yet, Spin doesn’t sound as chaotic as Banks seems to lead on. In fact, it’s quite relatable, with intricate spoken word amidst a gentle piano (“Kev’s Interlude”), the all-toocommon frustrations of working a full-time gig (“4 AM”), and anxiously wading through mall crowds (“Zooming Thru”). With an emotive songwriting process, Banks shares that his ideas are often spur-of-the-moment and generally based on production. “Sometimes I’ll roll through 20 to 30 beats a day until I find one that matches my mood. Once I choose the beat that I like, I generally work on the rhythm and tones that I want to get across. Then, the focus on the lyrics comes,” Banks says. “I try to talk through relatable subjects with a pop culture modern twist. If you listen to “Zooming Thru,” the song is about my card getting declined at a high fashion store. I like to play with eye catching themes and turn them into great songs.” While a remainder of songs that didn’t make the cut on Spin will be featured on an impending project titled Elijah Banks & Friends, the rapper values collaborating with fellow Columbus-based artists to stay grounded. Part of 14-member collective Rawest4mation, a group of artists that uplift community arts culture, Banks aspires to one day run an indie label. • 614NOW.COM FEBRUARY 2020 (614) MAGAZINE

With a structural team in place, Banks credits Spin executive producer Kevin Kesicki with piano instrumentation and the cohesive flow of the album, alongside DJ B Redi, Banksâ&#x20AC;&#x2122; official DJ. With plans of one day throwing niche cultural events, Banks hopes to eventually test his walk on the runway, having previously modelled for local streetwear brand Good Behavior. Nearly two years after making a splash at Breakaway Festival, Banks is preparing to showcase his diverse instrumentation and creative material at his next show on Valentineâ&#x20AC;&#x2122;s Day in New York City, backed by his band The Balance. Though his music is leading Banks to spaces outside of Columbus, he says that these performances would be nearly impossible without hometown support. 38

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“ Each song showcases a situation right before it spins out of control.”

“I asked myself at the end of last year what [2020] holds for me,” he said. “Many people say [Columbus doesn’t] have talent but honestly, I truly believe you have everything you need for the things to bubble, minus one thing: We need to cross support and take our consumers seriously.” Though 2020 has just started, with an intentional feel-good sound on Spin, Banks has his sights set on finishing the year more consistent than he’s begun. It’ll be exciting to hear. •

Elijah Banks’ music is available on Spotify. Follow him on Twitter @elijahwonbanks and Instagram @elijahbanksmusic. 614NOW.COM FEBRUARY 2020 (614) MAGAZINE

Law and Orders

Lawbird

Fledgling bar Lawbird soars high with style BY M E L I N DA G R E E N P H OTOS BY B R I A N KA I S E R

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he hot pink neon sign by Lawbird’s window reads “NOT GOVERNED BY REASON.” The logo on the menu cheekily warns you to “leave your bullshit at the door.” The space inside is light, bright, and funky, a reflection of owners Annie and Luke Pierce’s home. In fact, everything about the place is a reflection of the Pierces’ taste in drinks, food, and entertaining—and the result, so far, has been a success. The Pierces opened Lawbird, their first bar, in early November. Instagram is their main mode of communication and the primary way the bar has attracted clientele, although word of mouth has also been a driver, especially among older guests. ”Most nights, you look around and there’s people of all generations, which is really, really cool in this city,” Luke notes. “I don’t think there are a ton of bars that get that big of a spread,” Annie adds. “Restaurants, of course. But I don’t think I’ve worked in a bar that draws this broad of a crowd.” Luke and Annie grew up in the Columbus suburbs and have spent their careers in the restaurant and bar industry. Annie was involved with Bombay Sapphire’s Most Imaginative Bartender competition in London, England for years, and won in 2017—the first woman, and the first bartender from a tertiary market, to take the top honor. They met six years ago, when Luke was selling wine for a local distributor and Annie was working in a restaurant. They knew they would eventually have a place of their own: Annie always joked, “we’re not switching jobs or industries any time soon, so we might as well be doing it for ourselves.” • 614NOW.COM FEBRUARY 2020 (614) MAGAZINE

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After two years of conceptualizing and planning, they describe the final result as a direct reflection of how they like to eat, drink, host, and share. When they talk, it’s clear that even though Lawbird is in its first few weeks of getting off the ground, they already have their eye on the future. “We have an absolutely phenomenal team working with us, but we knew the first concept had to be executable within our means, on a shoestring budget,” Annie explains. “Then, as we grow, we can tackle more diverse things.” Lawbird is known for unique wine selections as well as for high-quality cocktails. “We just love wine, the diverseness of it,” Luke said. “It was something we felt Columbus needed as well—there are a lot of tired wine lists, I think, in Columbus.” “A lot of wine programs are based around restaurants,” Annie adds. “So it’s things you’ve seen before, and it becomes kind of a closed loop. We wanted to create a space where you didn’t have to eat to enjoy wine. It’s kind of a comfortable, casual space that de-stigmatizes and de-mystifies. Not everything is made to be paired with something.” •

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â&#x20AC;&#x153; We want the cocktails to be drinkable, but quirky and fun. We want to challenge people a little.

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The list ranges from easily quaffable reds, to orange wines, to high-acid whites and sake—again, the types that the Pierces enjoy in their everyday life. “Most of the wines on our list are on the natural spectrum somewhere,” Luke said. “The grapes might be grown organically or biodynamically, some might have natural fining or filtration, some might do native yeast. Not a lot of other places do that around town.” Annie curates the cocktail list. Rather than laundry-list every single ingredient, the menu highlights main flavors and allergens, then gives a saucy “feels like” descriptor. “We want the cocktails to be drinkable, but quirky and fun. We want to challenge people a little.” Lawbird also carries a handful of beers, mostly Ohiobrewed. But the Pierces admit they’re not the destination for beer on South High Street, with neighboring establishments already dominating the beer scene. “One of the most surprising elements coming out of our space is that the food is really, really good,” Annie says. Their favorite snacks and shareables, like soft-cooked eggs with house-made mayo, can be enjoyed singly or combined for a larger, nontraditional, dining experience. The menu is “vegcentric” (but not entirely vegetarian), with both hearty and lean offerings. Lawbird even has a small retail program, offering select 3-bottle curated wine packages for holidays or everyday. “It’s super fun for us, because it extends our nerdiness,” Annie laughs. One of the things the Pierces enjoy most is sharing insights, personal knowledge, and favorite products with their guests and staff, as well as educating about things like orange wine. And their commitment to their team is clear. “Annie and I have made this our profession, and we really want our staff to be able to treat this as a profession as well,” Luke says. “We have staff who are serious about constantly learning.” “We serve people, not food and drink,” Annie adds. The sign in the window may suggest otherwise, but the Pierces clearly have left no detail to chance where the success of Lawbird is concerned. •

Lawbird is located at 740 S. High St. View menus and learn more at lawbirdbar.com

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Indian Cuisine Grows Up

ROOH offers flavorful cuisine from many corners of the country BY RE G I N A FOX P HOTOS BY BR I A N KA I SER

Bhavesh Kishinchand remembers being embarrassed when his mom wanted to pack Indian food in his school lunches growing up; he was self conscious about the smell and afraid people would make fun of him. Now, the first-generation Indian-American is proud to be flipping the script on Indian cuisine stereotypes as General Manager and part owner of ROOH in the Short North. The restaurant repackages traditional spices, fresh local ingredients, and international cooking techniques to deliver an all-new, elevated, and unexpected results. “It’s the process, the presentation, and, quite frankly, the quality of the ingredients are drastically improved, based on that $8.99 buffet-style Indian restaurant that everyone is used to,” Kishinchand said. • 614NOW.COM FEBRUARY 2020 (614) MAGAZINE

Time-honored tastes of India have been embraced and refined by Executive Chef Sujan Sarkar at ROOH’s San Francisco and Chicago locations. Columbus is now getting a piece of the naan thanks to Chef Swapan Das, who shares Kishinchand’s passion for putting Indian cuisine up on the pedestal where they know it deserves to be. “We came up with the idea to take some more recipes that are hidden inside Indian cuisine,” Das shared. “There’s so much diversity that we can take more flavor from India and make it something different with produce from America. It’s not about just rice and curry.” And rather than honing in on just one region of India like other restaurants tend to do, ROOH’s menu represents all reaches of the country. “Every region has a different flavor in India and every region has a different spice, so why not just combine them together and make something nice?” said Das. Take his favorite dish on the menu: achari monkfish and shellfish. This vibrant entree’s Kerala Alleppey curry is inspired by the love of coconut in southern India. The monkfish is cooked in a traditional tandoor clay oven at 400 degrees to keep the meat tender and moist on the inside. A prawn and rice dumpling stuffed with crab and cheddar round out the dish. Kishinchand’s favorite dish, the pork belly small plate, features a candied mango glaze capable of inciting nostalgia among Indian diners. Mango hard candies are popular with the youth, and Das says the sweet and tart sauce transports him back to his childhood in India. •

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ROOH tips its hat to the state of Chennai with its beef short ribs. The curry is made with Madras, a hot spice made popular by the northern state. The succulence of the beef and heat of the curry play well with the croquettes, which are made from the trimmings of the short rib, bone marrow, and potatoes. On the drinks side, the Kerala—named for a state on the west side of the country—is a rum-based cocktail with hibiscus and pineapple. Kishinchand said customers often wonder why there’s such a tropical drink on an Indian restaurant menu. “Kerala is surrounded by the coast, so it’s basically the Caribbean,” he explained. “This is just a whole other area that people never knew existed.” The restaurant debunks stereotypes around the food while maintaining authenticity to the heritage. ROOH carefully retools ingredients and techniques typically found in Indian kitchens that can leave guests feeling “heavy,” in Kishinchand’s words. One example of this is the aerated potatoes on top of the lamb keema dish. “Generally speaking, we’re making mashed potatoes, which is a very heavy food,” said Kishinchand. “But, once you aerate it, it becomes a very light and fluffy mousse.” They also developed a way to freshen up one of the most traditional Indian dishes: butter chicken. “A lot of Indian restaurants will put sugar, butter, and cream into their butter chicken,” shared Kishinchand. “To obtain that sweetness, we’re using red bell peppers.” Kishinchand admits to still craving those $8.99 Indian buffets he and the rest of the ROOH team set out to elevate. He said there’s a time and place for this version of the fare, but is pleased to take it to the next level. “One thing I love about ROOH is that it’s the same transitions that you saw Chinese food and Mexican food go through—cuisines that were mostly known as cheaper food options or take-outonly options,” he explained. “Now, you see Michelin star restaurants that are Chinese, that are Mexican. So why not Indian?” Additionally, he sees ROOH as an important intersection between the Indian community here in Columbus and those new to the culture and cuisine. “I think [Rooh] has given [the Indian population in Columbus] a place where they want to hang out. It gives them something to be proud of,” Kishinchand said. “I see a ton of Indian people bring their friends here, and that’s never something I did when I took out my friends. I think it’s an easy way to introduce people to [Indian] cuisine.” • ROOH is located at 685 N High St. Visit roohcolumbus.com for more information. 614NOW.COM FEBRUARY 2020 (614) MAGAZINE

The Best Of Both Worlds Bistrolino Old World Kitchen brings unique flavors to German Village BY M I K E T H O M A S P H OTO S BY R E B E C C A T I E N

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n the conversation around modern dining, there are certain descriptors that have taken on less than positive connotations. These inherently harmless words became objects of mockery due to overuse, thanks to concepts that probably had no business applying them in the first place. In particular, the word “fusion” seems to have worn out its welcome. The much-maligned “F” word notwithstanding, the crossover success of Lebanese-meets-Italian on display at Bistrolino Old World Kitchen and Bar is not just an attempt at novelty, but is backed by the rich historical similarities common to the two cultures. Take it from the Romans and Ottomans: as unique as a civilization may be, you don’t spend so much time in close proximity without a few things rubbing off. Like the traditions from which they hail, Bistrolino owners Sam Chedid and Francesco Todisco found common ground in their love of food. A native of Southern Italy, Todisco started making pizzas at age 13. His 24-year career in cooking took him to numerous kitchens in New York City, and later, to work as a chef in his wife’s native Columbus. Chedid began his career as a civil engineer, but never fully connected with work in that field. Dreaming of opening his own restaurant, he took a job with Aladdin’s Eatery to learn the ins-andouts of the industry. It was here that the two connected, and began collaborating on the concept that would become Bistrolino. “I always told him we would open a restaurant together and he’d laugh it off,” Chedid says with a laugh of his own. “Over our time getting to know each other, we realized how similar our foods were ingredients-wise, and decided to put them together.” Looking at the common elements between the two food cultures served as a starting point for Bistrolino’s menu. There is much that the two culinary traditions share outright, and other areas where commonalities allow for creative synthesis of complementary flavors from each culture. •

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With their plan of action decided, the duo already had a destination in mind for their new venture: Columbus’ historic German Village. “The neighborhood has been fantastic. We always knew we wanted to be here,” Chedid said. “The old architecture and little streets remind us of home.” And the food at Bistrolino seems to have reminded others of their home, as well. Since opening in late December 2019, the restaurant has already attracted clientele from far and wide—including members of the local Lebanese and Italian communities in search of familiar flavors that are hard to find in Central Ohio. “I wanted to introduce people to more Lebanese food that you don’t see unless you go to Lebanon,” Chedid says of Bistrolino’s offerings. “We love hummus, we love tabbouleh, but we’re just trying to stay away from that, because that’s what you find everywhere commercially.” If off-the-beaten-path Lebanese food is decidedly less familiar to the American palate, Bistrolino’s fusion of Italian favorites offers a gateway to new experiences. Whatever level of familiarity one approaches the menu with, the dedication to quality and freshness on display in the kitchen is sure to win fans. “If I can tell you anything about the food that we make, it’s that it’s all about simplicity and very high-quality ingredients,” says Todisco. “The culture where we come from, sitting down at the dinner table is not just to feed ourselves. It’s to come together and have a good time. All of our dishes are made having in mind that usually when people come together, they are sharing.” 56

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The shareable menu concept is well-expressed through a variety of familiar Mediterranean favorites, from flatbreads (each available as an open-faced Italian Puccia or the more sandwich-like Lebanese Mankoushe) to charcuterie. A selection of terrine, single-serve roasted dishes served right in the cooking vessel, present some of the restaurant’s more decadent offerings. Whether it’s the made-to-order lasagna, lamb chops, or a brasciola (the menu’s most expensive item at a more-than-reasonable $20) comprised of thinly-sliced, creamof-basil-stuffed NY strip—the entire menu offers an incredible value for fresh, scratch-made fare. From a Lebanese salad called Fattoush to frittatas and much more, vegetarian options at Bistrolino are abundant, as are unique wine selections. The house wine from the Massaya Vineyards label of Lebanon offers flavors from a country that is considered a hidden gem among wine producers. Whatever the mood calls for, diners would do well to arrive early to secure their preferred dish. The confines of the small kitchen’s limited storage space and Todisco’s commitment to using the freshest possible ingredients sometimes means that items will run out. “I feel sorry when I have to tell people we are out of something, but there is nothing I can do,” he explains. “This is the only way to keep everything super fresh.” Food so good it sells out? Maybe fusion isn’t such a bad concept after all. •

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Columbus Does Good:

EmpowerBus Startup social enterprise helps close the employment gap â&#x20AC;˘

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“ Our goal is to deliver upward mobility for all by providing dignified, reliable, on-time transportation to work, education, and healthcare. ”

slyne Rodriguez is pitch perfect, though not necessarily in any sort of musical sense. Her passion for transportation innovation demands immediate attention in any room, and by the time she’s done making the case for bringing equity to employment through a tiny fleet of commuter buses, folks often find themselves singing the same tune. But when she was handed the microphone at a gathering of stakeholders at Rev1 Ventures discussing the city’s ongoing efforts to increase economic inclusion, the set list suddenly changed. Instead of delivering her polished pitch on urban mobility to a capacity crowd, she was overcome by her own unlikely origin story. She reflected on her grandparents’ journey from Puerto Rico with only an elementary education, and welled up as she revealed her grandmother’s dream of opening a cake shop that never came to be. Raised near Youngstown, her parents both worked for the local school district—her mother a guidance counselor, her father a school bus mechanic. It was an early epiphany, realizing the parents of the kids who rode those same buses to school every day often struggled to get to work themselves, that would become the inspiration and driving force behind EmpowerBus.

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“That was a raw moment. Something came over me and I needed to tell that story,” confessed Rodriguez, founder of EmpowerBus. “There are communities with the desire to be entrepreneurs, but they don’t have the pathway. Not everyone can do a friends-andfamily round of fundraising for their startup. I’m only one generation removed from coming here with limited education and not knowing the language.” What started with a single 25-passenger bus that shuttled employees from the Morse Road corridor to New Albany has in two years pivoted to a more nimble 14-passenger model with routes throughout Central Ohio, including the recent addition of an autonomous shuttle service in the underserved neighborhood of Linden as part of the Smart Columbus initiative. It wasn’t a contract she pursued, but one that found her based on a reputation of earnest intentions in a community that can prove short on trust after decades of disappointment. “We have been loved by the community in a way most companies aren’t. But we’re still very careful about how we use the term ‘social enterprise.’ People think, ‘Oh, you’re a nonprofit and you do good work.’ ‘No, we’re a for-profit business that wants to do good work,’” she explained. “In some circles of Columbus, social enterprises are still misunderstood. We want to grow our business, and take care of our people. It’s how we expand to serve more communities.” Like most midsize cities, Columbus wasn’t created for cars, but evolved to rely on them almost exclusively. Half a century of urban flight only amplified our cultural dependency on single-occupancy vehicles. Recent years have seen an overdue disruption in transportation, from Uber and Lyft to scooters

and self-driving vehicles. But depending on any of those to get to work, an internship, or a doctor’s appointment reliably is dicey at best and undeniably cost prohibitive. For those of more modest means, the transportation revolution is still leaving them behind, and the face of who is left out is changing. “Everyday in America, 10,000 adults turn 65 years old. They all don’t need shared transportation, but they may be taking care of aging parents who do—and they could soon too, or may just want to opt out of driving,” she explained. “They call it the ‘Silver Tsunami’. But people are also moving back into cities, they want walkability and maybe don’t want to have or need a car.” The dynamics of demographics are changing all around. A relatively recent return to city centers has actually reduced the pool of potential employees for companies with warehouses beyond suburbia. Bus routes tend to cover the hours and destinations of those heading into downtown, not out of it. It’s a gap EmpowerBus closes, often cutting travel times by municipal buses in half with fewer stops, and with routes and a scope that have both expanded to bring employees in •

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rural Licking county closer to Columbus, as well as transport employees from the Southeast side to destinations in Delaware. “How do we get people to a job that helps them advance their lives? Workforce is still a central conversation for us,” Rodriguez noted. “Maybe they are working a job they can walk to that pays them $10 an hour, but maybe with transportation they can get to a job that pays $17 an hour with benefits and a 401k? That’s a big deal; it changes their lives.” Mobility means more than just transportation, and Rodriguez is the first to admit her ambitions are audacious. Recent partnerships with Spectrum and Accenture will introduce an educational component to EmpowerBus during the ride with tablets as teaching tools. Second-chance employment for those exiting incarceration combined with low unemployment create a catalyst for hiring that wouldn’t happen without access to locations that are desperate for workers, but often in areas where they are in short supply. “Smart Columbus prompted a broader conversation about workforce transportation. A lot of companies created ‘mobility ambassadors’ to discuss opportunities they wouldn’t have considered otherwise,” she revealed. “We’re also a logistics hub with a lot of manufacturing and distribution that happens here, and the market is tight. Employers are more open now to secondchance employment than they have been in the past. But how do those potential employees get to a job that allows them to restart?” As with any startup, the future is where the rubber hits the road. Helping prospective employers identify “opportunity 62

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zones” based on their current workforce, or simply reducing the demand and cost for employee parking, illustrate the balance of creative and comprehensive solutions the company can offer— more than just in Columbus. Invitations to expand to cities elsewhere in Ohio, as well as surrounding states, show just how far and wide word has spread about EmpowerBus, its founder, and her dream. Aslyne Rodriguez moves people. “The next step for EmpowerBus is to fulfill everything we set out to do and see what that looks like at scale. Our goal is to deliver upward mobility for all by providing dignified, reliable, on-time transportation to work, education, and healthcare,” she explained. “Expanding into another city and just scraping by isn’t a strategy. We’re a startup that has bootstrapped it so far, and we have to decide if we’re going to go big or grow incrementally. But for now, we’re investing in our people and processes, so when the time comes to scale up, we’ll be ready.” •

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It’s cliché to say, but love truly comes in many different shapes and sizes. This month, we at (614) set out to look at love in Columbus in the modern age. The way folks are meeting now has flipped the advice we used to get—don’t talk to strangers on the internet—on its head, as more and more of us flock to dating apps. The definition of a “relationship” is also shifting; couples are ditching the traditions of old and making love—as they define it—work for them. But don’t get us wrong: people are still finding and keeping love in this city, and many were kind enough to share their tales. Whether you’re single, dating, or in a long-term relationship, you’re invited to join us as we explore love in Columbus today.

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The Rest Is History Couples in Columbus share their stories of falling in love BY MITCH HOOPER ILLUSTRATION BY SARAH MOORE

f Hollywood would ever pick up a romantic comedy about a couple falling in love in Columbus, how would it look? Would it be an epic story ending in an intimate proposal on the Scioto Mile, or two strangers bumping into each other at the Varsity Club on game day? Funny enough, both are very plausible. This month, we wanted to answer the question: what do love stories in Columbus look like? And what we found is sometimes love stories don’t happen in Columbus; instead they happen because of Columbus. While some folks were high school sweethearts who rekindled the flame, others struck up conversation in countries far away just because they shared the same ZIP code. In part, where you’re from shapes who you are, and for these couples, the capital city holds a special spot in their hearts. And, as the saying goes, the rest is history. 66

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Rachel Grauer and Aaron Guilkey Aaron and I first met in the early 2000s at Eli Pinney Elementary in Dublin. He was my first boyfriend in fourth grade and broke my heart on AIM (AOL Instant Messenger, for the young folk). We didn’t speak a word to each other all of high school, thank you high school social hierarchy. I went on to OU and he to OSU. We reconnected after college while on a bar crawl in the Short North and the rest is history. We are getting married September 2020!

Lauren Sheridan and David Tripp All of this is true: We met at a Clippers baseball game. It was a team outing for work. I worked with his mom and she was setting us up. This story is meant to be a complete disaster. Thankfully, it wasn’t. Our first official date was at 16-Bit, where we would take our engagement pictures over two years later. He lived in Arizona for 10 years before moving back to Columbus in 2016. It’s been fun reintroducing him to the city, especially our food and beer scene. I can’t imagine having these adventures with anyone else.

Misty and Erin Dickinson We met at Rendezvous Hair Salon, where she is a hairstylist. Then we spent time together at Drauma at the Bluestone, followed by a night out for a Nina West show at Axis complete with dinner at Union and after party drinks at Macs. We were with my friends and I offered to walk her to her car which had been towed because, well, Columbus. I stayed with her until we finally found her car at 3 a.m. We started hanging out a lot after that while we both swore we were “just friends”! Almost five years later and we are back in Columbus after a two year move to Tampa. We married (twice, but the story will be way over 100 words! Second time at LaNavona), and have a thousand Columbus stories. Columbus is our home. The place we love and always come back to. There is no place like it.

Kellie Anne and Carl Rainey I moved to Columbus from LA in 2014 and met my now-husband a month after the move. We found out quickly that we were both California sports fans and went on our first date on Halloween. Lakers vs. Clippers was on the TV at the bar, so we made a bet and the loser had to pick up the tab. My Clippers beat his Lakers, so he had to pay up. We’ve been inseparable ever since. We got married March 23, 2019, and I’m so happy to call Columbus my forever home now!

Daniel Custer and Jenny Harris I met Jenny on a wine cruise in Santorini, Greece. I saw her from across the pier before we boarded and knew I wanted to chat her up—she was gorgeous. She and her friends sat by me on the catamaran and we began telling one another where we were from. When it got to Jenny, she said she was from Columbus. I said, “Where?!” and she said “Grandview!” We spent the rest of the weekend together, along with the past three years.

Brittany and Ethan Monk We met as employees at Scioto Country Club in UA. He was a broke server and I was a broke student working as a hostess. We spent many holidays away from family but with each other. We are complete opposites that were impossibly attracted to one another. We married and have 2 children. Still opposites—I work in clinical research and he is a musician and stay-at-home dad. We both have made Columbus our home!

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Nicole Erdeljac and Andrew Crowell We spent the day (separately) at the 2019 Memorial Tournament and were hanging out at the Bogey Inn afterwards. He was standing at the bar and I was behind him, waiting to be served. His friend kept accidentally hitting my shoulder while trying to reach over me to get his attention. I was visibly annoyed when he asked me to tap him. But, I did. We spent the rest of the night dancing to the live band and had our first date a week later at the Columbus Arts Fest, once again, dancing to the live sounds of Anderson East. The rest is history!

Tracie Lynn and Adam Douglas Keller It was one month to the day after my mother had lost her battle to cancer in 2007. It was one of my favorite nights for being out in Columbus—Red, White, and Boom. After my sister’s and my friend’s group persistently encouraged us to go out for fireworks and time with friends, we agreed. We needed something light and fun. What could possibly come of that? I’ll never forget the moment that I made eye contact with this handsome, tall and smiling man. He had happened to be out with a mutual friend of our group. We made small talk, listened to live bands, and, well—the rest is history. Nearly 13 years later, we now have two great kids, two dogs, and a rich, full life in Columbus. This is the city we met in, and the one we made a life in. I couldn’t ask for a better love story.

Rebecca Schaffer and Peter Yeager We met at Ledo’s, the first bar on our OSU senior bar crawl list. Flash forward 12 hours later at World of Beer, we bumped into each other again and he handed me a raw russet potato with his name and number written on it in Sharpie. Super weird and random but it did the trick. I called him my soul mate to his face that night. Last winter he took me around town. We stopped at both those bars, reminiscing about our time together. He asked me to be his wife in the middle of the same World of Beer where he gave me that first potato, hiding the ring in a large toy Mrs. Potato head. There’s no other way I would have liked the beginning of our story to go.

Victoria and Ryan Metzinger I met my amazing husband in Columbus on a blind date set up by mutual friends (sounds very 1995, but it was actually 2011). He suggested a casual drink at Grandview Cafe and I upped the ante for dinner at Third & Hollywood. We continued to Spagio and ended at Grandview Cafe and the rest is history! Now, with two beautiful boys, our WiFi network will always be labeled “Third and Hollywood” as an ode to the perfect setting for a first date. We also visit the restaurant every year on our anniversary and it will never lose its luster. 614NOW.COM FEBRUARY 2020 (614) MAGAZINE

Relationships Remixed A primer on nontraditional relationships BY L I N DA L E E B A I R D I L LU STR ATI O N S BY SA R A H MO O R E

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t’s an understatement to say that assumptions and experiences in dating, love, and relationships have changed over the past few years. Between the proliferation of apps designed to find you anything from a quick hookup to a life partner, to expanding definitions of what relationships can look like and more acceptance around non-traditional approaches to love and dating, the way we find and experience love today is unique to this moment in history. No matter how we choose to define ourselves and our own relationships, even if they are traditional, it’s helpful to understand ways that others are approaching things. As attitudes and types of relationships continue to evolve, one thing has become clear: “love” looks a little bit different for everybody. And however you define it for yourself—or choose not to—there’s a community in Columbus ready to support you. To learn more about relationships outside of the traditional model, (614) reached out to experts at The Columbus Space for Alternative SelfExpression, designed as “a safe gathering place where adults can find education and support in exploring their authentic self,” and Mozaic, a resource center for transgender and gender non-conforming people of color. Staff from both organizations spoke about some of the many different ways people in Columbus are practicing relationships. “It’s just part of being human that you are going to have an experience as a sexual being. We wanted to provide a space that allowed for that, and that educated people and gave them resources to find out about themselves,” said Trina “Brat_Sheba” Gardinier, Co-Director of The Columbus Space. In that vein, The Columbus Space provides a venue for people to learn, discuss, and explore types of relationships and intimacy that don’t fit into the typical monogamous mold. Giving people room to explore their sexuality within an accepting community is important to the founders. “A lot of people’s view of sexuality is somewhat unhealthy, because as a society we don’t promote very healthy sexuality,” said Andrew “Barak” Gardiner, Trina’s husband and Columbus Space co-director. The Gardiners are seeking to change that through their classes and work at The Space, which is open to adults over the age of 19. The big takeaway from these interviews is that in all relationships— traditional or otherwise—communication is key. “[This] is about a shift in the way we understand, in the way that we do relationships,” said LuSter Singleton, Community Outreach Coordinator at Mozaic. That means asking questions while respecting boundaries. (Pro tip: asking someone their preferred pronouns is considered respectful; asking a trangender person whether they’ve had surgery is not.) It also means that the terms of any relationship are decided by the people involved—and only the people involved. “Nobody can determine what your relationship is except for you. You get to make that decision. No one else gets to tell you what your relationship is called, or how you need to run that relationship,” Trina explained. The Gardiners said they’ve seen a lot change in the past five years, noting that people are much more open today about being in open or polyamorous relationships. “I think that the openness that we’re experiencing from the younger generation is amazing, and it’s really blazing a path through what it means to be in a relationship,” Trina said. Mikalya Robinson, Prevention Assistance Program Intervention Navigator at Mozaic, summed it up well: “We want to get people to understand that love is love.” •

The Columbus Space for Alternative Self Expression is located at 180 Outerbelt St. Learn more at columbusspace.com. Mozaic is located at 2228 Summit St. Learn more at www.mozaicohio.org.

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Terms to know The experts (614) interviewed shared some of the most commonly used terms to describe non-traditional relationships and sexual desires and preferences. Even among experts, there were some inconsistencies among these definitions, showcasing just how fluid things can be. Everyone was in agreement on some fundamentals, though: itâ&#x20AC;&#x2122;s important to communicate your own wishes, ask questions respectfully, and keep an open mind. Then you and your partner(s) get to decide how things will work for you. With that in mind, here are some terms to know.

Gender identity

Polyamorous

How an individual views their own gender (e.g. male, female, two-spirited). An individualâ&#x20AC;&#x2122;s gender identity may not be the same as their sex assigned at birth.

Being involved in more than one relationship at the same time, with disclosure among all parties.

Monogamous Being involved in a relationship with one partner at a time.

No-label

Pansexual Being attracted to individuals of any gender identity.

Sexual orientation The gender(s) an individual is attracted to.

Choosing not to identify a sexual orientation.

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WHEN ITâ&#x20AC;&#x2122;S RIGHT TO SWIPE RIGHT Examining apps as the modern matchmaker BY MITCH HOOP ER | I L LUST R AT I ON S BY SA R A H M O O R E

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hen you start digging into dating apps, you’ll find mixed reactions. One Google search result will show that a study from Stanford University found online dating has become the most popular way for folks to meet. And if you scroll down a little more, our very own Ohio State University published findings that compulsive dating app users tend to be more lonely. You win some, you lose some. The truth is you get out what you put in when it comes to dating apps. For all the arguments against them, you can’t deny the convenience they afford our busy lives. You can start the week without a date and by Friday find yourself sipping a cocktail across from a new face. And for all the arguments for these apps, your entire idea of a potential partner can be based on a few photos and icebreaker conversation starters. In other words, you truly don’t know the person until you meet the person. Dating apps in the modern age have taken to algorithms, much like streaming services today. Instead of suggesting music in your Spotify playlist and new Netflix recommendations, it’s new faces that you might be interested in based on how you complete your profile. But that’s just half the battle. Once you connect with someone, it’s up to you to navigate these waters and land yourself a date. We’re here to help, and we talked with a couple Columbusites who use various apps about what to expect. Two dating apps that are currently popular are Hinge and Bumble. There are many similarities between the two apps; both will ask you to fill out your profile with the gender you identify with and your sexual preferences, along with photos of yourself. Then, you’ll answer questions that serve as icebreaker conversation starters with potential matches. These conversation starters are one of the key features of both apps, as they are creative and a good basis for getting to know someone with little information. Options can range from “First round is on me if…” or “A shower thought I recently had.” This is a good place to let your personality shine. Users advise that you keep it light, clever, and avoid referencing The Office. “I’m a diehard Office fan, but if that’s all you can put in your profile about you, I already know you don’t have a personality beyond that,” said K. Coleman, a 24-year-old female user of dating apps. “I don’t care what you are watching on Netflix.” Bumble differentiates itself from Hinge by serving as the Sadie Hawkins of dating apps, where women always initiate the conversation. It also utilizes the popular swipe feature where users simply swipe left to pass on someone and swipe right to say, “I’m interested!” Should you find success swiping, Bumble also features an “away” setting—kind of a pause button—which takes your profile off the market until you reactivate. For Spencer Swonger, a 29-year-old male, this feature can be less than ideal. “What I didn’t know is when you come out of away mode, every person you matched with gets a notification like, ‘Hey, this person is back on Bumble,’ which to me sucks,” he said. “Even if I’m just casually doing it, I don’t want every person I’ve talked to to be like, ‘Oh, this guy is looking again.’” On the other hand, Hinge takes more of a “ball is in your court” approach, where if someone likes your page, you can invite them to start a conversation. If someone comes across your feed and you are not interested, simply hit the “X” option and move right along. There’s also the “most compatible”

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feature, which looks at your history of likes and passes and how you interact on the app, and connects you with someone the algorithm thinks you’d really like. Additionally, your profile will eventually find its way into other users’ most compatible stream. Swonger and Coleman both say Hinge and Bumble are the dating apps where they find themselves spending most of their time. Both picked them up after putting down Tinder, one of the most popular dating apps to date. Apps such as Tinder and its predecessor Grindr, a place for members of the LGBTQ+ community to connect for dates and meet-ups, introduced the swipe feature. Though Tinder is flooded with users, it’s gained something of a hook-up app connotation, and that is why Swonger and Coleman said they moved on from it. “I did Tinder for maybe a week, maybe two,” Swonger explained. “With the other two, I have a lot more success meeting up with people or meeting people who are actually interested.” Coleman said her preferred app is Bumble, because it empowers her to make connections with people that interest her. “You have to talk to them first, so it weeds out the creepy interactions, which is always nice for women,” Coleman explained. “I like the role-reversal in Bumble. While I think that men hold a significant power in the dating world, I don’t think they hold all of it.” When it comes to actually holding a conversation on these apps, Coleman and Swonger agree: don’t play games. Swonger says he tries to keep his usage of the app to late in the day for up to 30 minutes at a time. If he connects with someone, he’ll strike up a conversation and see where it goes. Coleman echoed those sentiments and said she recognizes that when someone takes awhile to respond that you shouldn’t read into it too much, rather consider the hectic and busy lives we all lead. It’s worth remembering that these dating apps are built out of convenience, which looks different for everyone.

Swonger’s success on the apps has led him on as many as four dates a week. For him, the idea is to try to set something up in the physical world and get out of messaging mode. It’s also how he recommends new users utilize the apps. With the high volume of users on each app, the chances of meeting someone new are virtually endless. In his mind, it’s better to meet and get to know each other and then decide what—if anything— comes next. “I actually just ran into a girl I went on a date with while I was out on another date and got a sour text from her the next day,” Swonger recalled. “But if I’m still on the dating app and haven’t deleted my profile, clearly I’m still out there.” And that’s a good point to close this out: even with all his success, Swonger is still swiping away on these apps. The same can be said for Coleman. Both have found dates through the app and both are still searching. Rome wasn’t built overnight, and neither will a long-lasting relationship. Keep swiping, Columbus. Who knows who you may find?

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e’re only going to say this once so get your notepads and pens out: dinner and a movie is not a first date. There are so many problems with this date set-up. It doesn’t provide room for conversation; are you going to talk over the movie? It’s unimaginative; remember your first ever date? It was probably dinner and a movie. And with a little research, you’ll find a plethora of first date options that are fresh, fun, and hopefully will lead to a second date. That’s where we come in. No, we aren’t dating experts by any means. But with years of experience in bad date ideas, we’re here to steer a friend in the right direction. Check out these 29 creative first date ideas below, and ask out that person you’ve had your eyes on. Do it. We double dog dare you.

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Bouldering at Chambers While on the ground, bouldering might seem like an intimidating first date, but with a little bravery you’ll be surprised at how fun this sport can be. Bouldering is similar to rock climbing, but instead of walls that tower up to 80 feet in the air, these walls are much shorter and a bit more physically demanding. No harnesses or ropes required; all you need to bring is work out clothes (shoes and chalk are available for rental.) If you find instant success, it’s an enjoyable hobby for couples to come back to. And if you are struggling, it’s a humbling experience that can help ease the edge of first dates. Roller Skating at Skate Zone Nothing breaks the ice like falling on your ass the minute you skate out on the floor, and damn does it give you a good conversation starter for the night. Of course this is a pessimistic outlook and perhaps you’re the boogie skating champion of your hometown. Go off, dancing kings and queens. This is your place to shine. Golfing at Top Golf Sure, Top Golf is a great place for the veterans to go and practice their swings, but where it truly shines is for non-golfers to find a way to swing some clubs and have fun. Here you can skip the course and go straight to the driving range for fun game modes that switch up the traditional method. The flags sit in the middle of large holes which determine the amount of points you earn when hitting a specific area. Game modes like the chipping game test your short game while power swings are to see who can rack up the highest score.

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Ice Skating at Chiller Similarly to roller skating, ice skating can either be a funny story, or the reason you make it on your date’s Instagram story. The public skating sessions at the Chiller locations are as low as $8 in the evening and rental skates will only cost $3. Tubing, Skiing, or Snowboarding at Mad River Mountain A date to Mad River is somewhat of a choose your own adventure. If you’ve mastered the slopes, snag your lift ticket and ski or board your day away. But, if you are more into hitting the lodge bar and speeding down some hills from the safety of an oversized inflatable, tubing is a great alternative. Sip and Paint at Pinot’s Palette Are you looking to get active, but not physically active? Sip and paint is the date night you are looking for. Follow along as a skilled artist teaches you, your date, and a class how to properly paint a portrait, all while sipping back glasses of wine. Pro tip: your date’s painting is always better than yours. Go-Karting at Grand Prix Karting Strap in, ya’ll! This isn’t your typical Spring Break ‘09 at the Myrtle Beach go kart course, this is intense. These karts race up to speeds of 35 miles per hour and the well-maintained and -designed course give you the feeling of playing Mario Kart, but in real life. Typically, we’d say let your date win, but there’s no room for mercy on the racetrack.

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Watch Ohio State’s other sports teams Football season is over; we’re sad, too. That being said, Buckeye sports never stops in this city. Whether it’s Chris Holtmann leading the men’s basketball squad or the top-15 ranked women’s ice hockey team, there’s options for all sporties. Splurge on nice seats, or simply enjoy each other’s company from the nosebleeds. Coffeeshop Run and a Trip To The Local Record Stores There are a plethora of options throughout the city so this date option has many paths to follow. If you are looking to spend a morning or afternoon Downtown, Upper Cup Coffee on Parsons Ave. is just a few blocks away from Spoonful Records. Alternatively, if you are near Clintonville or campus, Used Kids Record store is nearby and so is Babas Coffee for a cup of joe to kick start the date. High Beck Free Ping Pong and Pizza Who doesn’t love a free night out on a Monday? Belly up to the bar at High Beck in the evening where free Columbus-style pizzas will be served up throughout the night. While these pizzas aren’t gourmet, the interesting toppings that find their way out of the kitchen are proof that you can put just about anything on a pizza. And the ping-pong table in the back provides for some friendly-competition. Laundry and Drinks at Dirty Dungarees Dating is fun, but it can be time consuming. For an unconventional night out that will also allow you to get shit done, grab some quarters and take your date over to Dirty Dungarees. Pop in a load and sip your way through the spin

cycle at this unique/bar laundromat concept— where you can sometimes catch a rock show— all while getting a revealing look at what makes your partner tick by completing one of life’s most menial weekly tasks. Doesn’t use fabric softener? Weird method for folding socks? Maybe they’re not the one... P3 Magic Show on Tuesdays This is a mandatory two-part date. Part one is obvious: watch the free magic show in amazement and disbelief. The second part is crucial: drinks afterwards with your date to figure out how the hell those tricks were actually pulled off. We can’t promise you’ll get to the bottom of the tricks, but keep sipping those cocktails and it’ll all work out. Antiquing/Thrifting The beginning of relationships starts with a lot of presumptions and it’s nice to get some confirmation in the early stages. No one wants to move in with someone only to find out they have an obsession with clown paintings. Take your date antiquing and thrifting to get a taste for their design eye, and find out if your styles are compatible. Get Lost at The German Village Book Loft While this is a fantastic affordable date option, be warned! The Book Loft Twitter account is savage and you aren’t the first, nor the last, to have the idea of bringing your potential partner to the bookstore. They can spot a first date from a mile away, and you might find yourself the subject of a tweet afterwards. C’est la vie!

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Board Games at Tabletop Playing board games with your date can show you a lot about them without much needing to be said. Are they ruthless landlords in Monopoly, or do they spare you the dreaded pick up four in Uno? Games like Cards Against Humanity show off your humor while team based games like Secret Hitler tests everyone’s abilities to read non-verbal cues. Whoa, I thought we were playing board games here. Trivia at Oddfellows Trivia nights on the surface might seem a little odd for a date night, but hear us out. Between the creative problem solving and all the pop culture references, conversation starters are almost being thrown at you at every turn. Dinner at the Blind Ninja Dinner Challenge The Blind Ninja Dinner Challenge is taking the term “blind date” and giving it a whole new meaning. Here, diners and their guests will be blindfolded and served a five-course meal that includes challenges that must be completed throughout the night. Do you think you and your double date group can get through it all? Let’s see what you got. Book an Escape Room This date night is a perfect chance to see how you and your date stand up under pressure. Will you two spend the entire evening arguing over a puzzle, or can you come together for a triumphant victory?

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We will warn you that being stuck in an escape room for an hour with a bad date sounds something like a torture chamber, but hey, who doesn’t love a funny story? Chill With Cats at Eat, Purr, Love Cat Cafe If there was ever a safe bet when picking a double date night, it would have to include cute animals. At Eat, Purr, Love, you’ll be drowning in cuteness overload as the cafe is home to numerous cats looking for a few friends to play with for an hour or two. While you might find some luck as a walk-in, its strongly encouraged to make a reservation via their website. You’ll come off as both organized and an animal lover: a good first impression to make. Throw Down at PiNS When it comes to PiNS, date night options are endless. If you and your group can beat the rush, put your name in for some duckpin bowling. And if you have a later start for your evening, things like life-sized beer pong and Jenga as well as ping-pong provide for hours of entertainment. Though if all else fails, there’s always drinks at the bar and bites from local food truck favorites all while sitting in a heated patio. Brewery Hop This date night requires a little planning, but it’s half the fun! Take to Google Maps and make a quick route with three or four breweries all within walking distance, or at least a cheap Uber or Lyft. Not sure where to start? Try Endeavor in Grandview, move to Seventh Son on 4th Street, slide over a few blocks to Hoof Hearted, and if you’re feeling extra froggy, leap down to Wolf’s Ridge to end the night.

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Bar Arcades We aren’t saying there’s anything wrong with a date night to the bars, but if you can up the ante with free-to-play arcade games, why not? There are a handful of bar arcades around the city including 16Bit in Downtown, Level One Bar + Arcade in Worthington, and the Old North Arcade. It’s a great way to have some fun, engage in friendly competition, and converse about how these games influenced your childhoods. Gambling at The Hollywood Casino If the saying nothing good ever happens after midnight is true, that goes double when you’re at the casino. But who has ever known us to be rule followers? The Hollywood Casino is open 24/7 so you and your date can go into the wee hours of the night spending money you don’t have on games you probably won’t win. C’est la vie? Late Night Snack at Insomnia Cookies Skip straight to dessert with the city’s best option for a late-night sugar fix: Insomnia Cookies. Chocolate chunk, white chocolate macadamia, or good old snickerdoodle— whichever you choose, the gooey, freshbaked goodness of these cookies make for a date night that’s sure to please. Bowling at Columbus Square Bowling Palace The old standby is good for more than just kids’ birthday parties. Grab a pitcher of beer, lace up those stylish rental kicks, and try not to throw your back out as you and your date spend ten frames one-upping each other with your best “Big Lebowski” quotes. Just try to keep it out of the gutter! Franklinton Fridays The booming Franklinton neighborhood is quickly becoming the center of the Columbus art universe. Hosted the second Friday of each month, Franklinton Fridays offer a chance to mingle with creatives and get up close and personal with works in an open studio environment. When you’re done rubbing elbows with the local artistic glitterati, grab a nightcap at the nearby Rehab Tavern or Land Grant taproom.

COSI: After Dark One night each month, everyone’s favorite center of science and industry kicks out the kiddos and brings in the bottles for COSI: After Dark. Pairing a generous selection of craft beer and cocktails with many of COSI’s hands-on exhibits, one of the city’s signature evening events can also double as an ideal date night. And since each month features activities based on different themes, (from dinosaurs to “Wizard School”) there should be minimal room for awkward first date silences. Go Dancing You’ll have the “time of your life” with this old standard—a night out on the town dancing. But hold on there, Chester: a few things have changed since the time of the charleston and foxtrot. Nowadays, Columbus is home to a bevy of dance nights offering a modern take on your grandparents’ favorite pastime. From the retro-classic vibes of golden-age soul via Heatwave at Ace of Cups, or the emocentric Sadboys events at Skullys, there’s no better way to get your body moving. 23 skidoo!

BONUS DATE FOR LEA P DAY Jump Around At Skyzone SkyZone gives a whole new meaning to leaping into a leap year. Here you and your date will find trampolines covering the walls and floors where you can bounce, flip, and reach new heights. If you are feeling adventurous, practice your tricks and flips at the trick pit where soft foam cubes serve as your landing zone. And if you are feeling competitive, take out some middle schoolers in a friendly game of trampoline dodgeball.

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Love Like A Pro

The Bennett brothers—relationship experts and identical twins—share advice for every stage of the game BY K E R RY F R A N C I S | P H OTOS BY STE F STR E B

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“ The brain chemicals of passion last two to three years, then couples have to confront the reality of the relationship. Know that your relationship always requires work, and keep things fresh. ”

elationships and dating are hard—social media is isolating, and pressure to be in a relationship is reinforced this time of year. That’s why twin brothers Jonathan and David Bennett started Double Trust Dating, a company that helps people improve their social skills, which are foundational to success in dating and relationships. “Charisma, confidence, charm—people think you’re born with it but it’s like any skill that you can improve and develop with practice,” Jonathan said. David points out that love and relationships are an important aspect of life, and they’re worth investing in. They should know: both brothers are certified relationship and life coaches. Whether you’re single and looking or in a long-term relationship, sharing your life with someone takes work. Here are some tips from the Bennett brothers for all stages of relationships. • 614NOW.COM FEBRUARY 2020 (614) MAGAZINE

Dating (614) What’s the best way to approach dating? Jonathan: First, be open. We have a checklist mentality [...] we have a long list of things we want in a partner. Looking based on that list doesn’t usually lead to love, it leads to a lot of first dates and dissatisfaction. Love is a feeling, and a lot of loves and crushes don’t meet those checklists. When you “swipe right” and give people who don’t match that list a chance, you’re more likely to find that deep connection. David: Second, be approachable. Brush up on your social skills and talk to people throughout your day. So many of us are closed off—we’re on our phones or have headphones on. How do I meet people? David: While online dating can be helpful, it’s more effective to meet people in the real world. What leads to falling in love is interacting. Get out! Go to your regular hangouts and interact. Go to new places that present social opportunities. Look for things that reflect what you enjoy and your values; it’s easier to talk and connect when you have things in common. There are a lot of opportunities such as religious services, clubs and trivia nights.

Committed Relationships What should I do in the beginning of a committed relationship? Jonathan: Balance chemistry with core values. Be proactive and ask questions about goals, milestones and what constitutes monogamy. Know that you may have more chemistry with someone that seems like an odd match, and little chemistry with someone who seems perfect on paper. Be careful of outside noise such as “my mom and friends love him but I’m not sure.”

How can I keep my relationship strong when I have kids? Jonathan: Prioritize the romantic relationship. If it becomes all about the kids, the romance dies. “Kids come first” can translate into, “I don’t matter.” People feel guilty prioritizing sex and romance, but you need to give time to the relationship— and to yourself. We’ve hit a rough patch. What now? David: Continual honest and authentic communication—no topic is off limits. The things we default to when we’re not communicating [such as] passive aggressive communication, expecting someone to read your mind, the silent treatment lead to anger and aggressive communication.

Moving On How do I get out of a relationship unscathed? David: Again, communication. Many times breakups are bad because there was a lack of communication and the breakup is out of the blue, even though it seems obvious to the other person. If you’re honest throughout the relationship, the breakup is less of a shock. Jonathan: Keep the breakup as private and amicable as possible. Keep it off social media, and take time to process your emotions. The emotional center of the brain where love comes from is the same place hatred comes from—that’s why you can feel love and deep hatred for someone at the same time. How do I start over after a breakup? Jonathan: Be single and enjoy it! Not feeling like you need someone right now leads to better relationships later. Take at least a few weeks to process the breakup and reconnect with people. Jumping in too fast can cloud your decision-making.

How can I start my marriage off right? David: There’s a dopamine high for a few weeks after the wedding but then things go back to normal. The brain chemicals of passion last two to three years, then couples have to confront the reality of the relationship. Know that your relationship always requires work, and keep things fresh. Also, keep working on yourself and maintain other relationships.

David: When you’re ready to start dating, brush up on your dating and flirting skills since you haven’t used them in awhile. Don’t be afraid to fail and laugh at the bad parts. Get help if needed—there’s a stigma around seeking help with dating, but we join a gym to work on our health so why not seek the same support for relationships?

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Every wedding—like every couple—is a little bit different. Couples combine personalities and interests developed over their lifetimes with family traditions passed down through generations to celebrate in a way that’s truly unique. Eight Columbus couples were kind enough to give us backstage access to their wedding days—the highlights, the mishaps, and most of all, the stories of love and commitment. Congratulations to our featured couples. Thank you for sharing your special day with us.

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Perfect Plan

Advice from Wedding Planner Leda Anderson

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ongratulations—you’re engaged! Almost from the moment of “yes” the questions start coming: When will the wedding be? Indoor or outdoor? Sit-down dinner or buffet? In short, what’s the plan? What starts as an exciting project—plan a gigantic party for all your friends and family!— can quickly become a source of stress and anxiety. After all, when was the last time you organized and budgeted for a large-scale event while also serving as one of the main guests of honor? It’s an experience few of us have, and are therefore often unprepared to deal with. Luckily, there’s help. Leda Anderson, Owner and Lead Planner of Events Held Dear, a Columbus-based wedding and events company, works as a professional wedding planner. She supports 10-15 couples each year on the road to “I do.” Anderson offers tiered planning services,

working with couples starting either four to six weeks before the wedding or throughout the entire planning process, depending on their needs. It’s an investment Anderson says is worthwhile. “We literally know the insand-outs of every vendor. We know how to budget. We know how to plan. We know how to review contracts and advocate on your behalf,” she said. “You wouldn’t hire Aunt Suzy to take your wedding photos. Why wouldn’t you expect on the biggest day of your life to hire a person to handle every aspect, to be that team lead?” As weddings in Columbus are getting nicer, and couples are looking to have “publication worthy” events, a professional planner can help minimize hitches on the road to getting hitched. “It really can just set you up for success,” she said. •

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Anderson sat down with (614) to share some tips and advice for couples planning weddings in 2020 and beyond. (614): What are some of your favorite ways that you’ve seen couples personalize their weddings? LA: Little things can set your event apart so quickly. It doesn’t have to be some huge huge expense. That’s what people appreciate are the small details. I think seating charts can be really fun. It’s one of the first things people see after the ceremony, like a fun art installation. I love knowing what makes my couples them [and] incorporating that into seating charts and flowers. What are some trends you anticipate for 2020 weddings? Ceremony: [Couples are] no longer having many church ceremonies. So many venues are being all inclusive where they have a ceremony location and somewhere you can hold a reception. Guests: Smaller guest counts in general, which we love. [...] Smaller guest counts really open up your budget to do some more fun things. Clothing: Brides: For wedding gowns, more statement pieces, fashion forward, big billowing trains and sleeves. Grooms: Suits, bolder colors, not just black or gray but navy [with a] fun pattern liner or tie Food: Being more intentional with the menu […] Stations are a little bit more popular now too. Flowers: A lot of classic [wedding colors] are coming back, classic all white; blue is the Pantone color of the year. [...] A lot of people are also bringing more texture in their flowers, like weird statement flowers or dried flowers instead of just your typical roses. Decor: More texture in the decor and tablescape in general. [...] Less is more a lot of times, but I think that you can make a really fun event with texture and pattern. 88

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What’s one piece of advice you’d give a couple planning their wedding? Know how to budget. [...] Some planners or coordinators do a lot of blog posts on how to budget. It’s terrible when you get to that six months out and you realize you still have to book four to five more vendors and we’re already over budget. Anything to add? A couple should enjoy it. I think it’s really sad when they’re planning the biggest day of their life, hopefully one day of their life, and they hate it and they’re stressed and they’re crying. Ask for help when you need it, even if that’s not a planner, even if that’s a friend or mom. I’ve seen people get overwhelmed so quickly and it’s really sad that you don’t enjoy that time. •

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the WEDDING DAY FORECAST

On one hand, rain on your wedding day is considered good luck. On the other, Alanis Morissette likened rain on your wedding day to a free ride when you’ve already paid. Do with this information as you must. In the meantime, The Black Tux, an online wedding shop and blog, compiled weather history on Fridays to Sundays over the last five years via the Farmer’s Almanac to determine the best and worst dates to get married. They defined the “best days” as dates that haven’t had any history of rainfall as well as temperatures above 70 degrees and the “worst days” as dates with high amounts of rainfall and extreme temperatures (hot or cold). If you are planning a wedding in Columbus in 2020, keep these dates in mind!

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September 6 June 7 July 25

February 16 January 4 February 7

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Sometimes, Summer love can blossom into “forever.” This was certainly the case for Allegra Wiesler and Benjamin Hanf, who met as high schoolers vacationing on North Carolina’s Bald Head Island. Seeing each other casually through their teen years soon developed into a long-distance relationship, until Columbus native Ben managed to convince his North Carolina-born sweetheart to make the move north, promising it really didn’t snow all that much here. Ben’s outright lies about weather aside, Columbus’ amazing local food culture was enough to win Allegra over. When Ben finally popped the question (using Allegra’s great-great-grandmother’s 250-year-old ring, no less) there was no looking back for the happy couple. Though Allegra and Ben call Columbus their home, they both still enjoy visiting North Carolina, where their story began all those years ago. For their big day, Ben and Allegra committed to a zerowaste ceremony and reception. Three cheers to this mindful couple, who honored the planet and each other with their thoughtful approach to wedding planning! •

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describe your big day in six words:

“Sustainable weddings are the future.”

Who was someone that made your big day run smoothly or stand out? Our friends stepped up and helped to pick up our food from Condado and Buckeye Donuts, set up table linens and flowers, and help tear down at the end of the night. We couldn’t have done any of it without them.

Any standout stories from that day, or something that you’d do over every time if given the chance? Our wedding was zero waste—every vendor was chosen based on their partnership in helping us go zero waste to landfill. We used a composting vendor, Innovative Organics, to help us collect compost (food, compostable cups and plates, etc.) and we collected recycling to drop off the next morning at a SWACO location. It was a lot of work because it meant a lot of education for our vendors and guests, but it was completely worth it. 92

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Did anything go comically wrong, or was there anything you wish you had skipped? I made my own signage for the wedding, and there was a misunderstanding around cups used for drinks so I didn’t have cups in my signs. So at the end of the night, I was in my wedding dress digging through the recycling to collect the cups that should have gone in the compost instead - super cute.

Was there anything you did or had that made the big day easier? Using a service like The Knot was really helpful because I had no idea what I was doing and we did not get a wedding planner! On the day of the wedding, I had a timeline written out and envelopes with tips for the vendors. I felt a bit more organized, which calmed me down - but I’m sure my friends and family did most of the work on the back end.

Anything that you want to add that made your day stand out? At the end of the night, I couldn’t bear to throw out my flowers because they were still so beautiful. So my sweet family and friends gathered the flowers and dropped them off at our house the next morning. I gave a few arrangements to my neighbors to enjoy, and then saw on our neighborhood Facebook group that a couple was having an impromptu wedding the next day at their house and had invited everyone in Clintonville. So I messaged the couple to see if they wanted any flowers, and they happily came to pick them up to use for their wedding too! • 614NOW.COM FEBRUARY 2020 (614) MAGAZINE

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yle Harrington and Ed Thomas first met through mutual friends during a night out at the bar, but hardly spoke to each other during that initial hangout. Attending a party with those same friends a week later, the two made a connection. Chit chat turned to countless Facebook messages in the coming days, and the two eventually made their relationship official while taking a walk in Goodale Park. During the five and a half years of dating that followed, the question of marriage was discussed, but it still came as a surprise when Ed finally popped the question. The proposal happened while the two were on an after work stroll through the neighborhood. On that unsuspecting Monday night, the couple’s path led to Goodale Park—the site where they’d begun their relationship journey together. When Ed pulled out his phone, Kyle was annoyed, because he thought Ed was texting. Instead, he started playing their song. A few minutes later, he got down on one knee.

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The Venue at Dock580

APPAREL Indochino

OFFICIANT

Adam Rusnak, friend of the couple

NOTABLE DECORATIONS, FLOWERS, AMBIANCE

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describe your big day in six words:

“The best day of our lives.”

Who was someone that made your big day run smoothly or stand out? Our family and friends were a huge factor in our day running so smoothly. A close friend did our invites and programs, Kyle’s parents helped with all the flowers before the wedding, Ed’s parents helped with planning and our friends made sure everything was at the venue to be set up.

Any standout stories from that day, or something that you’d do over every time if given the chance? We’d do the entire thing over, just the same if we could, from waking up together, to the coffee we enjoyed before going to the venue to assemble our archway, to the mimosas we had at home later while relaxing before getting ready together. The entire day was incredibly stress-free and about us and our relationship. 96

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Did anything go comically wrong, or was there anything you wish you had skipped? It was all perfect—really! Our entire plan was to keep it simple in order to enjoy the day. We steered clear of any elaborate decorations or over-the-top day-of activities. Keeping the day simple allowed us to focus on us and enjoy each moment without being worried about the details.

Was there anything you did or had that made the big day easier? We really tried to keep everything simple in order to make the day as easy as possible. We didn’t hire a wedding planner so everything was on us. Our venue set everything up, which took a lot off of our shoulders. We also didn’t have a wedding party which made the day go so much smoother.

Anything that you want to add that made your day stand out? Because we didn’t have a wedding party, we didn’t feel a traditional rehearsal was needed. Instead, we invited close family and friends to Seventh Son for pizza (from our favorite, Adriaticos) and beer. It was a great way to start the celebration. We ate, drank and laughed the night away. And because we live in the neighborhood, we were able to walk home. • 614NOW.COM FEBRUARY 2020 (614) MAGAZINE

Lauren & Kayvon 10.19.2019 // The Venue at Dock 580

Photography by Nicole Leoné Miller Photography

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Finding the right person to spend your life with can feel like a scavenger hunt. When it came to their marriage proposal, that was very much the case for Lauren Kantzer and Kayvon Padidar. To pop the question, Kayvon sent Lauren on a day-long adventure beginning with a massage and continuing through all of the sentimental places that were significant to the couple throughout their relationship, which began while they were both attending OSU. In true Buckeye fashion, the clues Lauren gathered eventually led to the Park of Roses, where Kayvon awaited—along with a pink stretch Hummer, and a professional photographer—to capture the moment when he popped the question. To top the day off, the couple’s family and friends were also on hand at a special dinner to surprise the bride-to-be on this very memorable day. With a proposal so big, the wedding itself had a lot to live up to. From a truckload of decorations, to photos at the iconic Book Loft and a Vera Wang wedding gown, we’re guessing the big day was everything the happy couple could dream of. •

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Dock 580

APPAREL

Suits were Tommy Hilfiger from Macy’s and Dress was Vera Wang from La Jeune Mariee Bridal Collection.

BOOZE

Provided by us but our bar was rented from Aiden and Grace Specialty Rentals

OFFICIANT

Pastor Steve DeWeber of Marion, OH

NOTABLE DECORATIONS, FLOWERS, AMBIANCE

Evergreen Flower Company did all of the flowers. Desserts were done by Chasing Perfection and cake by Alice’s Piece of Cake

BUDGET RANGE $40,000

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describe your big day in six words:

“Everything I have ever dreamed of.”

Who was someone that made your big day run smoothly or stand out? Celeste Reamer, our coordinator with Dock 580, was amazing to work with. She made all of my ideas and whims come to life and never said no! She made the whole day run smoothly and helped us design and set up the space so beautifully! We cannot thank her enough!

Any standout stories from that day, or something that you’d do over every time if given the chance? We did a first look at the Book Loft in German Village. I would do that over every time because it saved us so much time in the long run. We were able to knock out a ton of pictures before the wedding in cool locations and it didn’t feel like we were rushing to get it done. I would highly recommend doing a first look as it saves your sanity and I feel like you get more pictures because you have more time!

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Did anything go comically wrong, or was there anything you wish you had skipped? We had a table completely collapse after dinner during our first dance but their staff were true professionals and got it cleaned up so fast. No one really even knew it had happened!

Was there anything you did or had that made the big day easier? We rented a U-haul and put all of our decorations and other items in it. We then stored it overnight at the venue and the staff liked it because they could quickly unload all the things they needed and then they loaded it back up at the end of the night for us with everything we needed to take back home. We picked it up the next day and took it home to unload it. It made the end of the night less stressful because we werenâ&#x20AC;&#x2122;t worried about fitting it all into cars. I would recommend getting a U-haul!

Anything that you want to add that made your day stand out? We gave out shawls to all of the lady guests in case it got cold and they were a huge hit! We also had a cigar bar and everyone used it at some point. I also loved my amazing flower arch; people used it for pictures all night long! The last thing I loved is that we rented vintage furniture to use out under the tent around the dance floor so people could still sit and watch the dancing if they wanted to, as the dance floor was separate from the tables in the reception room. â&#x20AC;˘ 614NOW.COM FEBRUARY 2020 (614) MAGAZINE

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Hannah & Jared 05.04.2019 // Immaculate conception Catholic Church /The Estate at New Albany

Photography by Megan Correllus, Anchor Images Photography

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eddings are among the most romantic traditions known to man—and that doesn’t just apply to the bride and groom. Hannah and Jared Hubbard met while attending a ceremony in Jacksonville, Florida, the groom being Hannah’s cousin and one of Jared’s best friends. Noticing Jared across the room during the reception, Hannah (with a little help from some “liquid courage”) quickly pulled him out onto the dance floor. The two never looked back following their fateful first dance, and dated for 17 months before getting engaged. To pop the question, Jared surprised his bride-to-be with a late-night proposal at their Clintonville home. The occasion was made all the more special by the fact that the day Jared chose was Hannah’s birthday! When it came time for a wedding of their own, the day itself was full of what they called “perfectly imperfect” events, from Jared forgetting his ring and running home to get it before the ceremony, to the DJ introducing Jared’s twin brother as the groom. In spite of these comical setbacks, it’s obvious that the couple whose story began at a wedding wouldn’t change a thing about their own.

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Ivy Bridal Studio/Generation Tux

BOOZE

The Estate/ Simple Times Mixers

OFFICIANT

Father Matthew Hoover of Immaculate Conception Catholic Church

NOTABLE DECORATIONS, FLOWERS, AMBIANCE

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describe your big day in six words:

“Joyful. Fun. Energetic. Warm. Exciting. Loving.”

Who was someone that made your big day run smoothly or stand out? Courtney Heibel with Rooted Together Events made our day what it was. From making a stand-in bouquet to keeping everyone on track, our day would not have been the same or nearly as successful without her!

Any standout stories from that day, or something that you’d do over every time if given the chance? My husband is an identical twin, so the DJ announced his brother/best man as the groom and everyone started cheering while our wedding coordinator was trying to say, “that’s not him!” My cousin played acoustic guitar during cocktail hour and everyone loved it! 104 (614) MAGAZINE FEBRUARY 2020 614NOW.COM

Did anything go comically wrong, or was there anything you wish you had skipped? My husband forgot his wedding band at our house (which is luckily a couple minutes away from the church) so our bus driver had to make a pit stop on the way to our wedding for him to run in and get it. Our wedding party all cheered when he ran out with the ring.

Was there anything you did or had that made the big day easier? Our wedding coordinator and umbrellas!

Anything that you want to add that made your day stand out? We added little personal touches throughout our day: a Star Wars cake topper for May the 4th, a Kentucky Derby-themed cocktail, special gifts for each other and the wedding party. We spent the day laughing and I think everyone around us felt the joy and love in the room. Our wedding coordinator and the staff at The Estate along with our officiant made our day so special. â&#x20AC;˘ 614NOW.COM FEBRUARY 2020 (614) MAGAZINE 105

Lauren & Jenna 11.2.19 // The Vault

Photography by Robb McCormick Photography

spontaneous night out in Grandview at a Reaganomics show led Lauren Ranalli to Jenna Patterson. Though Lauren knew that night that Jenna was special, it took a month before Jenna agreed to their first date. Three years later, Lauren found herself planning a proposal on a trip to Colorado with friends. She searched for ways to make the moment a fitting surprise. “Looking for hiking trails that would make a perfect spot to pop the question, I came across Sapphire point, fortuitous seeing as Jenna’s ring is a Ceylon Sapphire. For concealing purposes I had a custom ring box made and etched the mountains horizon on it,” Lauren said. The ring, custom-made using computeraided design and 3-D printing technology, was such a hit that the two returned to Scott’s Custom Jewelers in Dublin for Lauren’s ring as well. From the one-of-a-kind rings to a wedding that incorporated Columbus Zoo Animals, 200 dozen cookies, and a glassblown piece of artwork, the couple’s creativity came through on the big day.

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Creative Cuisine

APPAREL

Twirl and A Bride’s Design

BOOZE The Vault

OFFICIANT

Ashley Walker, Friend of the Brides

NOTABLE DECORATIONS, FLOWERS, AMBIANCE The Irish Rose

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Who was someone that made your big day run smoothly or stand out? Easily the best decision we made was to hire a day-of coordinator. Macy Meinsen was the point of contact for all our vendors and represented us and our wishes throughout the day.

Any standout stories from that day, or something that youâ&#x20AC;&#x2122;d do over every time if given the chance? We wanted to do something special for our guests to show our appreciation for all their love and support. We arranged a surprise and had an animal program provided by the Columbus Zoo during the cocktail hour. They brought in a penguin, sand cats, fennec fox, and a kangaroo! Our guests loved it, especially the kids! Jenna is from Pittsburgh where a cookie table is traditional in most weddings. We were excited to bring that tradition into our wedding here in Columbus. Family hand made the over 200 dozen cookies that we had on display. We wanted a unique unity ceremony and chose to use glass by Unity in Glass artist Lee Ware. We selected four colors and we combined the glass crystals during our ceremony. We returned the glass to be turned into a beautiful piece of glassblown art.

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describe your big day in six words:

“Uniquely us in every single way.”

Did anything go comically wrong, or was there anything you wish you had skipped? Thankfully no drama or disaster came our way. Between our great caterer and dedicated day-of coordinator, any hiccups were handled professionally and without stress for us the brides.

Anything that you want to add that made your day stand out? Lauren lost her beloved dad to cancer 12 years ago, and it was hard for her to imagine him not walking her down the aisle. Lauren’s mom made her an armband from the cuff of his jean jacket and the lace from her own wedding dress, which let her feel her dad’s presence as she walked down the aisle. • 614NOW.COM FEBRUARY 2020 (614) MAGAZINE 109

Erin & Connor 9.22.19 // Jorgenson Farms Oak Grove

Photography by Rachel Noel Photo

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Finding love in the city doesn’t always mean staying in Columbus; sometimes it’s finding it elsewhere and bringing it here. For Erin and Connor Hannon, that’s exactly how their story began. It started in Nashville when Connor was working and Erin came in to have a drink. As fate would have it, the two hit it off. And fate didn’t stop there: the two ended up working at the same restaurant a few months later, where their relationship would eventually take off. The two were together for two and a half years before moving to Columbus. And the timing of their arrival is pivotal to this story; after only being here for one day, the two decided to visit the symphony for the evening as a way to explore. Before the show, Connor decided to make a pit stop at Stauf’s to refuel on some caffeine. To Erin’s surprise, he proposed under the string lights. “We’ve still never gone to the symphony,” Erin said. •

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Jorgensen Farms Oak Grove

APPAREL

Dress: Made With Love Bridal Tux: Hugo Boss

OFFICIANT

Evan Matheney, brother of bride

NOTABLE DECORATIONS, FLOWERS, AMBIANCE Jorgensen Farms Floral

BUDGET RANGE $30,000-$35,000

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describe your big day in six words:

“Calm, happy, organic, meaningful, exciting, blissful.”

Who was someone that made your big day run smoothly or stand out? My brother, Evan Matheney, was our officiant. He put together a ceremony that was completely unique and true to us as a couple. We gave him a rough outline and he took it from there! We honored our love for travel as a large part of our relationship and spirituality, acknowledged our late loved ones in a subtle way, and kept it short and sweet!

Any standout stories from that day, or something that you’d do over every time if given the chance? On the back of each guest placecard on the tables, we wrote personalized notes to friends and family members. We wanted every one of them to know how much they mean to us and the impact they’ve had on our lives and our relationship. We owe so much of our happiness to them and really wanted to make everyone feel special. It’s something that people loved and commented on more than any other part of our wedding day. 112

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Did anything go comically wrong, or was there anything you wish you had skipped? The morning of the wedding, my father-in-law ended up with cream cheese icing all over his suit when the box carrying one of our desserts collapsed on him. Thankfully, he was a good sport! He even made a trip back to the restaurant to get more carrot cake to replace the pieces that were ruined.

Was there anything you did or had that made the big day easier? We tried to keep the day as simple as possible. We skipped out on traditions that didnâ&#x20AC;&#x2122;t mean a lot to us (example: a long, religious ceremony; garter and bouquet toss) in order to spend more time with our loved ones.

Anything that you want to add that made your day stand out? We were overwhelmed with love by the selflessness of our friends and family members. They made our whole wedding weekend so special and stress-free. They helped in every way imaginable and we cannot thank them enough! It truly meant the world to us. â&#x20AC;˘ 614NOW.COM FEBRUARY 2020 (614) MAGAZINE

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Tara & Chelsea 5.11.2019 // Scioto Reserve Country Club

Photography by Amy Ann Photography

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The best relationships are built on friendships. Tara and Chelsea added in a heavy helping of lacrosse for good measure. The two met while Tara was trying out for the Ohio State Club Lacrosse Team, where Chelsea stood as the club president and team captain. This budding friendship developed into something more, and five years later, the two tied the knot right in the city they fell in love in. Just like the relationship, they took their time popping the question. Chelsea set up an adventure for Tara at Hayden Run Falls where she would meet her friends along the trail to the waterfall with questions about their relationship. With each question answered correctly, Tara was given a reason why Chelsea loves her. At the end of her quest, she found Chelsea under a waterfall waiting to propose. Not to be outdone, Tara set up a proposal day for Chelsea as well. Chelsea was swept away in a limo and taken to locations that were meaningful to the couple. The final location took her to Ohio State’s campus, where an acapella group was singing a mashup of their favorite songs with all of Chelsea’s friends and family in attendance. If you’re going to do it, do it big! •

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Scioto Reserve Country Club and Buckeye Donuts

APPAREL

La Jeunne Marie and Lux Redux Bridal

BOOZE

Scioto Reserve Country Club

OFFICIANT

Cara Fiend, friend of couple

NOTABLE DECORATIONS, FLOWERS, AMBIANCE Madison House flowers

BUDGET $40,000

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describe your big day in six words:

“Exuberant, deeply meaningful, fresh, elegant, joyful.”

Who was someone that made your big day run smoothly or stand out? Honestly, all of our vendors were so fabulous, from Ann Marie, the coordinator at Scioto Reserve, to our photographer Amy Ann and videographer Emily Schutz. They each in their own way contributed to the magic of our special day. They were positive, organized, calm, and fun to be around and work with. It truly made the day that much more memorable and enjoyable.

Any standout stories from that day, or something that you’d do over every time if given the chance? The whole thing! But really, I would say our first look, and walking down the aisle toward my wife. I wish I could do it over and over again. Just five years ago our marriage wouldn’t have been recognized by the state of Ohio, so sharing those moments with the love of my life meant so much to both of us. We chose as one of our readings to have a friend read the majority opinion by Justice Anthony Kennedy for marriage equality, which I think meant so much to us to put in perspective how far we’ve come. 116 (614) MAGAZINE FEBRUARY 2020 614NOW.COM

Did anything go comically wrong, or was there anything you wish you had skipped? I would barely consider this something that “went wrong” but our ring bearer (2-year-old nephew) and flower girl got to the beginning of the aisle, looked at all the people, and froze. We were worried they wouldn’t walk down! Then all of a sudden our nephew took off in a sprint down the aisle, followed very closely by our flower girl. Everyone laughed, and we have some great action shots too!

Was there anything you did or had that made the big day easier? A very detailed timeline made collaboratively by our photographer and coordinated with our day-of coordinator. This was helpful both in the planning process and on the day of. We had also created our own timelines for our bridesmaids along with cheat sheets of “end of night” tasks to give to those helping us with tear down. It took so much stress off of us and allowed us to truly enjoy our day.

Anything that you want to add that made your day stand out? The love that we felt from our family and friends. It felt like it radiated through the whole thing from beginning to end. The positivity and kind words we heard from so many of our guests, the toasts from our friends and family, the packed dance floor until closing, and the unwavering support from our loved ones just cannot be beat. We are incredibly lucky. • 614NOW.COM FEBRUARY 2020 (614) MAGAZINE

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Samantha & Must a fa 10.12.2019 // Le Meridien Columbus, The Joseph

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h, the college days. It’s a time in our lives where we discover ourselves and make memories that last a lifetime. And amid all the weekend house parties and nights out at the bar, these experiences outside the classroom mold the relationships we have today. Mustafa and Samantha Miniato can surely speak to the days of old in college. The two met at a Greek mixer where Samantha was trying to introduce Mustafa to her friend. Fate had different plans and the two ended up hitting it off instead. They were together over six years before Mustafa popped the question. Mustafa pulled no punches with the proposal. He took his soon-to-be-fiancee to Santorini for vacation and the two set out for a day of exploring the island with a photographer. Samantha’s sixth sense was tingling and she had her suspicions about him proposing, but some lost luggage in the baggage claim helped Mustafa complete the surprise. He suggested canceling the photo adventure for the day, however when the photographer arrived, he popped the question. Can you think of a better way to celebrate an engagement than exploring Santorini? Congratulations to the happy couple!

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Cameron Mitchell Catering

APPAREL

Maggie Sottero

BOOZE

Le Meridien

NOTABLE DECORATIONS, FLOWERS, AMBIANCE

It’s Your Day Weddings and Events, Dahlia Occasions

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describe your big day in six words:

Totally timeless and picture-perfect day.

Who was someone that made your big day run smoothly or stand out? My best friend and bridesmaid Paige. She had just gotten married a few months prior and was so good at keeping everyone in check and everything in place. She was such a calm presence on my wedding day and she took care of everything for me!

Any standout stories from that day, or something that you’d do over every time if given the chance?

One of our best friends, and my husband’s groomsman, asked us to give a speech at the reception. Kind of unorthodox since he wasn’t the best man, but we’re very close with him so we agreed. Turns out he didn’t really have anything prepared and winged it day-of! It was a little long winded and you could tell he didn’t practice, but it’s definitely one of our most-talked about moments from that day!

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Did anything go comically wrong, or was there anything you wish you had skipped? Our DJ forgot to announce our best man and maid of honor entering the reception! He skipped right over them and went straight to us. We were all standing outside the door kind of shocked, luckily my wedding planner just ushered us in! There is a great behind-the-scenes photo of the moment we all realized they weren’t announced; that moment was worth it for the hilarious reaction caught on camera!

Was there anything you did or had that made the big day easier? My day was pretty seamless because I went insane making timelines and lists for the day. We were pretty good at sticking to it, too!

Anything that you want to add that made your day stand out?

We have two cats that we adore. Obviously we couldn’t really incorporate them into the wedding, but they’re a big part of our lives and we wanted to pay homage to them somehow. We ended up getting custom portraits commissioned and used them as signature drinks - the Riley and the Malibu! They were such a hit and the drink sign is so cute, we kept it! • 614NOW.COM FEBRUARY 2020 (614) MAGAZINE

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